CMLeaders: 2 Characteristics of an effective leader


Listening to all the different aspects of leadership over the two days of CMLeaders was great.  Reading through some notes, I did find some pieces that fit well together: pieces from multiple speakers.  One of the bigger pictures that I found could be called ‘Characteristics of a Good Leader’.

#1 A good leader pays attention to patterns

This works on tow different levels.  First, you need to be aware of the fact people are looking at you, and often imitating you.  I have a lot of experience working with kids, and this is so true.  The behavior pattern you model is the behavior pattern you will encourage.  If you are a high-strung, disorganized, paranoid person, the kids around you will tend to pick up on that and imitate your behavior.  On the other hand, if you model organization, thoughtfulness, kindness and any number of positive qualities, you will automatically enforce those qualities in the kids around you.

This is not only important when you are leading kids, but it holds true when leading adults as well.  If you complain, are disorganized, unhappy, that will trickle down through those under you, and it will be increasingly more difficult to keep them motivated.  If you remain positive, encouraging, uplifting, guess what.  That will permeate your team as well and it will become easier to lead your team. Continue reading

Top Leadership quotes from CMLeaders


So I’ve had a little time to start processing everything from the CMLeaders conference.  If you weren’t there, I would highly recommend you attend next year.  I searched through my twitter account to find some of the quotes I posted during the conference.  I understand that sometimes a quote out of context may not mean much to you, but this list is just as much for my sake as it is yours.  At least this way I have all of my ‘top quotes’ in a single place.

Your devotional time determines your emotional time @craigjohnson5

Kids don’t need to love me, they need to know someone loves them @samluce

Help those u lead succeed and shine brighter than u do. @samluce

We need to get back to “Jesus is everything” @samluce

The value of a volunteer in the United States is $27.79 per hour. – Sheila Robinson Continue reading

2 questions away from a ministry or classroom improvement


The dictionary says a consultation is a time of seeking advice, guidance or information. To consult means to consider or deliberate or to take counsel. We often consult with a doctor before special treatment. We consult with a lawyer before signing legal documents. A time of consulting is a time of informing yourself of the state of your current condition, or before a major decision.

So, what is the state of your current ministry or classroom? Are you getting ready to make a major decision? Who have you consulted with concerning either of these two situations?  It is wise to gather information, ask opinions, and seek counsel and advice no matter what stage you are at or how good you think things are going.

Often those that we ‘consult’ with are close to the situation. Those close to you
have similar views and opinions as you. It is nice to have the advice or opinion of
those outside of your circle to help you asses your situation. A fresh set of eyes
can help you see things you may take for granted, or things you may not even see at
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Dealing with Discipline: classroom and ministry ideas and tips


 

 

Discipline is a sensitive topic.  Everyone has their own ideas and procedures. ” How do you deal with kids when they are being disruptive?” is a question I have been asked a lot.  Some of you know that often what I write can apply to many different situations, and I often relate it to  ministry.  From 5 years experience in a classroom setting and quite a few years in a ministry setting, here are a few things we do:

 

1. The Look–  it is amazing how effective it can be just by giving ‘the look’.  Most of the time kids know that their behavior is not acceptable, and simply catching their eye is enough to let them know that you see what they are doing.  Knowing they ‘got caught’ will often cause them to stop.  Mothers are especially good at giving this look. (now that I think about it, so are wives, but that is another topic for another day)  And I am sure that you can all remember receiving the look at some point in your life.

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3 reasons you should attend CM Leaders Conference


September 13-14, 2012 marks the beginning of something new.  It is the first ever CM Leaders Conference (CM=children’s ministry) .  For any of you involved in children’s ministry, you understand that your ministry is different from any other ministry in the church.  You face many difficulties and issues that are unique to children’s ministry.  While it would be great to attend a general ministry conference, CM Leaders Conference is not only designed specifically for those of us involved with children’s ministry, but will go a step further to discuss the leadership aspect within our ministry.

http://incm.org/cm-leaders/columbus-ohio/

Michael Chanley and his INCM team (International Network of Children’s Ministry) are behind the new conference.

“Everything INCM does stems from our purpose statement: serve | serve | serve. Simply put, we exist to serve God and to serve those called to serve His children. The CM Leaders Conference exists to serve the church by training those called to serve in Children’s Ministry in the arts of leadership specific to our calling.

This new event builds onto the Five Initiatives we launched at CPC:

1.   Impart God’s truth to this generation

2.   Provide a safe and relevant environment

3.   Communicate with families

4.   Network with a community of leaders

5.   Pray for the international children’s ministry community.” Continue reading

Laying a spiritual foundation in our kids


 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

Prov 22:6

Not too long ago I was a part of an online discussion about how to partner with parents when it comes to attending to the spiritual needs of their children.  Parents need to have an active role, and in fact the lead role in the spiritual lives of their children.  The church has a 40-50 hour a year influence on a child, but the parent has a 3000 hour influence on that same child.

Through the conversation there were several things mentioned that got me thinking.  One of them is definition.  “Parents need to be the spiritual leaders of their house” is a statement that many agree upon, but may not know what that means.  I will attempt to explain my definition of the statement.

I believe that the role of a ‘spiritual leader’ is that of building the spiritual foundation of the child.  Now just what exactly does that mean?      Continue reading

Family Devotion Time


As a children’s pastor, one thing I enjoy doing is providing parents with tools to become the spiritual leaders in their home.  I have found that many parents would like to do this, but are intimidated, or simply don’t know what to do.
Last fall I wrote a family devotion book that has since been used in countless homes and churches across the country.  It has been a great blessing to many families.  Below is a sample devotion from the book.  It is meant to be read and completed as a family, whether in one sitting, two, or even three.  Do whatever works for your family.  The important thing is that you take the time together.

This week’s word: Believe

Think about it— Do you think it is easy or hard to believe in Jesus?  It takes faith to believe in something that you cannot see.  Even though we cannot see God, He has done so many things in us, around us, and for us, that we can know that He is there.


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Do you believe in what you cannot see?

1 Timothy 1:17
Now to the King eternal, immortal, invisible, the only God, be honor and glory for ever and ever. Amen

Romans 1:19-20
since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. For since the creation of the world God’s  invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been     clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that men  are without excuse.

This week at home:

Read Hebrews 11:24-27

Do you think it was easy for Moses to believe God?
How was Moses able to see “him who was invisible’?
Draw a picture of what you think God looks like.

Read  John 3:1-19

What does it mean to be ‘born again’?
Where does the wind come from? (vs 8)
How can we have eternal life?

Final thought:

The dictionary says that believing means we are confident of  the truth or existence of something  (God) without  absolute proof (not being able to see Him)  Do you believe in God?  What makes you believe?

We cannot see the wind, but we can see what the wind does.  We can see the clouds move or the leaves on a tree wiggle or a flag wave in the breeze.  We may not be able to see God, but we can see what He does.  We can tell when He changes something in our life.  We can see the plants and animals and stars and know it was God that made them.  Just because we can’t see God doesn’t mean we shouldn’t believe He is there.  If you have questions ask God this week to show you He is real.

If you enjoyed this, follow the link to a printable version.

Click here for printable version

Print it for yourself, your family, your grandkids, your nieces and nephews, you get the idea.  Also, check out my book.  It contains 10 different family devotion times, including this one.   Follow this link to see a sample of the book, and if you would like, you can purchase a copy–  FamilyTalk: A Guide to Family Devotions

I welcome your comments, and I would love to hear how your family grows together spiritually.  Do me a favor–share this post with a family who would benefit from reading it together.

I also leave you with a question:  How do you know God is real?